Everyone has tried to find something in the dark, stubbing their toe, knocking something to the ground, making a mess and tons of noise. Welcome to the divorce process in Wisconsin. To a lay person the prospect of navigating through the court system is like searching for something in the dark in an unfamiliar place. Every nerve racking noise and sharply painful toe stub is like trying to decide who gets placement of the children or who keeps the family home. It's scary and it hurts.